I thought when you get married, everything else in your life settles down. I was so wrong. Oh well...
This married life adjustment phase is certainly squeezing every last drop of my patience. I think this is WAAAAYYYY more difficult than migrating to another country you've never been to and without any friends and family. I mean the adjustment depression that my migrant friends talked about before, I never experienced in my migration to the US but I am currently experiencing in this adjustment to married life. Hayyyy... Yeah, that's all I can say. I am not discouraging you from getting married. It's just the I-dont-want-to-get-tied-down me who's talking here.
As what my husband always tells me, each struggle and failure that tries to pull us down are the things that make us stronger. Every time he says that to me, I am reminded that I should be thankful to find a life-partner like him. I love being married because I have that someone to share my highs and lows with, who will not judge me when I am angry, depressed and frustrated, who will do everything to make me feel loved and cared for.
As January started, God has done a lot of amazing things for me and my family. Things that I did not plan and never in my wildest dreams would have imagined. I guess this year God wants me to let go of my plans... To put him on the steering wheel of my life... To direct me and trust his ways. I am welcoming February with open arms... as Mrs. Carlos. =)
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Hi Lisa! Was gonna ask you how's the married life and voila, here's a blog post that answers my question.
My colleague (also Pinoy) is getting married (civil wedding) next month here in SG. And while we were on the train home from work, she asked me at what point did our parents decide that they were gonna get married... My answer: "Beats me." :p ...and how did they manage to raise us up to the persons we are now today.
Given that our generation has more resources and the fact that we are more equipped and skilled than our parents' generation, how come we are more uncertain with our ability to start a new family?
I think she was sharing with me her anxieties as to what lies ahead of what she is planning to do.
It got me thinking as well.
Mrs. Carlos, is "Carlos" the surname or your hubby's first name? I cannot remember you mentioning his name in your blog other than referring to him as GG (God's Gift)
Carlos is my new surname. Never mentioned his name here because he knows I have a blog but never told him the url. Was scared he might get creative and google me or his name. Hahaha.
The cliche, "it is easy to get married but difficult to stay married" is so true. It's just been a month but there were days that I would ask myself over and over what the heck was I thinking when I married this guy?!?
To answer your first question, I think being more equipped and skilled gives us less room for error (in our standards). Our expectations are higher. Our standards are higher. And we don't have anyone or anything else to blame if we do fail.
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