On Relationships

Happy New Year! Sorry it took me this long to post another blog. I have been busily catching up with my tv shows and a recently discovered liking for Korean drama.

An old time friend and former co-worker visited us after Christmas to attend a wedding here in Phoenix. She, the new boyfriend and the boyfriend's kid stayed with us overnight so we had a couple of hours of nonstop catching up. I just have to share her story here in my blog. I would say she is in a complicated relationship, well, more like a difficult relationship. So the bf is unmarried with a 3-year old son and has a slutty female bestfriend whom the bf is also entertaining in a more-than-friends kind of way and my friend is stretching all her patience for this guy whom I think is so not worth it. I can't believe I put all those stuff in just 1 sentence. Lol. Anyway, I seldom say my opinion about my close friend's relationships unless solicited. But then this time I wanted to hit my friend hard on her head so she'd wake up and realize what a big mistake this guy is.

I believe that the first few months of your committed relationship should be one of the best parts of your life together. It's at that stage when you feel giddy, nervous and excited about spending time with each other. My friend has already been through a lot of heartaches with her current relationship in just a span of two months. I believe that relationships should not be difficult if it is with the right person. Relationships should be healthy for you... it should make both of you better persons. Occasional misunderstandings are ok but if you fight about the same things everyday, it does not make it ok. My friend complained about a third-party in her relationship with the bf. I told her that the right guy will never give you reasons not to trust him. The right one will always make you feel you're the most beautiful person even in a sea of sexy, blonde and blue-eyed women.

Being happily married made me realize how crappy my previous relationships were and how glad I am that I didn't end up with them. Haaaaa! No matter how little you think of yourself, you still deserve someone who will make you happy and will treat you right. Relationships are meant to make you a better you.